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My Relationship Goals

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My Relationship Goals as a Newlywed Wife Goals can help in ensuring we actually do actions that will strengthen our lives. I am setting relationship goals, that will enhance my marriage in the context of my diverse fulfilling life.

Take note, I am not a psychologist. My background is in business marketing and journalism. Although I can reflect on personal experience, to see what works for me. Continue Independent Projects I enjoy delving into creative autonomous projects. It could be about dedicating some time on my blogs or online store. There is great freedom in doing something I have control over. These projects definitely will continue during my married life. Not only is it important to me, it is also something my husband encourages. We were both originally attracted to each other's abilities as much as our personalities.
Personal projects can be either hectic or calm. I might be rushing to a deadline on a publication or campaign for someone else. Some of my own digital work …

Why I Have Two Surnames As a Married Woman

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Why I Have Two Surnames As a Married Woman
After marrying in February 2017, I publicly kept my maiden name and also legally gained my married surname. That's right. I chose to have two surnames. And no, I did not draw inspiration from celebrities like Kim Kardashian West and BeyoncĂ© Giselle Knowles-Carter. This was a clear decision based on what works for my life. Past and Present Identities Combined I feel quite happy now with two identities. I am publicly keeping my 'personal brand' of Melanie Suzanne Wilson, which is also my legal birth full name. It is what people know me as. That simply feels right. My married name will be used in legal purposes when possible. So in private situations and when filling in forms, I am happily Melanie Suzanne Wilson Halford. The last two words will be a surname. I want to feel connected to my new life through a shared name. Both identities reflect who I am in personal and professional contexts. Both surnames are necessary parts of me. T…

More at the Gold Coast than Theme Parks

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There is More to Explore at the Gold Coast than Theme Parks My husband and I booked our honeymoon months in advance. We wanted a nice long stay at the Gold Coast. I wanted more than rides at theme parks. After research and then experience, I can now share some attractions everyone should enjoy.

I was never enthusiastic about theme parks, because extreme rides have always frightened me. I typically got through other theme park visits with one favoured activity - minding the bags. As friends whirled around on rides, I enjoyed opportunities to calmly sip a coffee and look at social media on my phone.

Perhaps there are other ways to slow down and still have fun. So we chose to experience Queensland beyond what was already known. This was the goal.

The result has been exciting experiences at amazing attractions. Here are some key attractions we have experienced so far. Skypoint Observation Deck We took an elevator all the way to the 77th floor. 60 degree windows provided clear views of th…

Why Being 27 is More Fun than Being 21

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Late Twenties Are Happier Than The Early Twenties I am glad to be 27. Late twenties are a much better age than the early twenties. Life seems easier and more manageable in the late twenties. Here are some reasons why: College graduation was more than a few years ago More career opportunities can exist, for someone who graduated from university more than a few years ago. There is less image of professional and personal naiveté. A stereotype does not appear as often in conversations that have a corporate context.
I completed my bachelors degree in mid-2012, with a September graduation ceremony. The first year or two were difficult, because people made assumptions about my abilities. I had already worked in an office for 9 months during my undergrad days. Yet people sometimes assumed that I was only close to starting my 'first real job' after I 'finished uni.' That last part is in inverted commas, because I went back for courses like grad school anyway.
Now, at 27, the d…

Craving Community in a Digital World

Craving Community as a Millenial A real sense of community is needed more than ever. The digital world can coexist with face-to-face interactive community experiences. Local group events are needed for true connection with fellow human beings. Digital tech and social media can facilitate in-person communities.
Digital and in-person experiences do not have to be an either-or. Social media is not in itself a bad thing. The way we use this technology can be helpful or harmful.
The popularity of social media is clearly evident. It can either be seen as a threat or an opportunity. Facebook had "1.18 billion daily active users on average for September 2016". Twitter claims to have 313 million monthly active users. Instagram recorded 600 million active users in December 2016, with an increase of 100 million in the 6 months prior. Social media is growing. It should be augmented with existing life, not contained as a world of its own.
Digital environments and local community groups m…

Look For Hope Beyond 2016 into 2017

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Looking for Hope After the Losses of 2016
2016 was a difficult year. There were public and personal losses around the world. Many celebrities left us, alongside close loved ones.We must have hope for the future. We need to start 2017 by remembering past people, and looking forward to new experiences. 2016 is a time of grief. Yet there must be more in our days, our lives, than grief.

Personal Loss
Loss was a theme again and again in 2016. I personally saw the passing of a 100 year old paternal great grandmother Madge Fountain earlier in the year, then a maternal grandma Marjorie Collins. Grandma Marj had suffered for a long time with dementia. Her downfall occurred quickly over less than half a day. She was a surprise before Christmas, alongside other tragic holiday events.


Celebrities who Passed Away
Then a public shock saddened the entertainment world. George Michael was found dead by his loving partner on Christmas morning. That day is known for joyful celebration, yet was tainted …